Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Marriage and Expense!!

I recently came across a talk show which was about Marriage. No, its not the typical marriage stuff. But about marriage expense. They mentioned that after marriage the bride's parents' will become poor, all that left will be debts, debts and more debts. 'N what worse? no way to pay it back.The reason they mention is, 'coz the rich people are creating a culture of conducting marriage in such a way that the common and poor people are forced to follow them. They are forced to think.. if they are conducting marriage in such fashion, we should at least do somewhat similar.

So, all the audience suddenly said they are against dowry, gold, hi-fi auditoriums, treats, any unnecessary expense etc. What they say is marriage should be personal and only the closest relatives need to attend the function and can thus reduce the expense of marriage. If everyone follows this and make it a standard, this problem can be avoided.


But, my question is.. isn't marriage a personal thing. If rich people buy luxury cars, why do common people go for cars or two-wheelers?. Who created such culture? My personal opinion is that just 'coz someone's doing something, don't follow it. If you have the ability to do something, do it. Anyway, who is forcing it? No one, but us. Another interesting argument is to let the people who spent the money spent it. It's 'coz of people like them, that we have lot of job opportunities. We have event coordinators, marriage coordinators, tour coordinators and things like that. So, if everyone is earning money and if they keep it to themselves, new job opportunities won't be created, right? Sowhatyathink about this?

20 comments:

  1. well not everyone can afford it as you say...and the poor always have to put it on the rich..

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  2. aneesh, adipoli question!! :)

    its right point too... follow what is meant to be followed... not other silly stuff..

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  3. dont ask me!! beats me all the time... :(

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  4. Absolutely correct! I was thinking the same thing while reading the second para.
    If people can choose how their life should be based on their wealth, then they should have the freedom of deciding how their, own, marriage should be. A poor need NOT to follow others. They can co it in a way that they are capable of.

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  5. Well like you mention there are two ways to look at it....

    if you dont spend you are not allowing money to flow and if you do spend people call you a snob...

    should this be between the couple as to what they want to do?

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  6. vishesh,

    So, what's your take away?
    :)

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  7. Leo,

    Yup! Welcome back 'N thanks
    :)

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  8. Phoenix,

    Okay! Forget that I asked you
    :)

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  9. Saranya,

    Yah, well said. One need to know what he/she is capable of before blindly following others
    :)

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  10. ceedy,

    Yup! 'N between their parents too, if they are the one who spend the money
    :)

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  11. ur right...its a PERSONAL thing. To each his own!

    Keshi.

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  12. I totally agree!A wedding is all about what the bride and groom want,not about satisfying the society or abiding by norms.

    These thoughts are running in my head all the time these days :)

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  13. The only thing I can say is wrong standards..y cant the least fortunate make standards for the society...as the rich can follow tat..

    ??
    nice post!

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  14. Sameera,

    Cool! Well said.
    Hope you don't have a problem with these
    :)

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  15. PJ,

    Unfortunately standards are always created by the rich
    :)

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  16. Something that beats me completely. Marriage is about two individuals and two families and they are all that is needed. It's really sad that people unnecessarily overspend to live up to the standards set by society, thinking "What might society think if we give only so much jewelery to our daughter?" Very sad in fact. Well written. :)

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  17. Interesting post, it kills me because sometimes it is all about image.
    Anna :)

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